So I'm going to get rid of this one now for sure, bc I got one that looks to be male and this one is giving it a hard time alreadyHaha, I would be nervous too. I haven't tried venting any fish yet. But I remember how shaky my hands were the first year my fantails had hookworms and I had to pull them off with tweezers. I was so afraid I was going to stab them if they wiggled suddenly. Lol. Now I handle my fish by hand more often then netting them. It's faster, easier, and I think less stressful for us both. Haha
Sounds like you have a good plan going
Chasing and flaring which can be aggression or courting but she's way bigger and I'm not gnna risk him not growing to full potential