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[MrsE88]

Ive been pregnant twice as a teen. Got to 28 weeks first time then I had some chick in school start on me and punched me repeatedly in the stomach - gosh it hurt. Obviously I had a miscarriage because of that.

Then a year or so later when I got with my ex I fell pregnant again and miscarried at around 14 weeks, I was very malnourished at the time and my body couldn't support a baby.

It was upsetting at the time but a blessing in disguise. I was just homeless for 6 months and if those babies had of been born I would of been homeless with a 10 and an 11 year old - which would not have been good at all.


After my second miscarriage I decided that I wasn't having kids (strict contraception) until I had a mortgage, my license and a reliable car, a good job and weighed more than 50kgs.

Now I've decided that when I do want kids I'll adopt. No point bringing another child into the world when there are lots of kids that don't have a loving home. I can provide one so that's what I'll do.

Sorry to hear about the miscarriages
My first was a miscarriage, just short of 12wks. More pain then I could have imagined feeling at that point in my life. I too was way under weight and think it was my body’s way of self preservation. It made me feel so guilty

Adoption is a great option! My sister adopted my nephew. He is a wonderful little boy they are still waiting on the list for another.

 

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4 my kids are adopted. all as infants. all have jobs and moved out cept one, she is autistic on the Asperger scale and will live with us for life.

 

[jaws7777]

Ive been pregnant twice as a teen. Got to 28 weeks first time then I had some chick in school start on me and punched me repeatedly in the stomach - gosh it hurt. Obviously I had a miscarriage because of that.

Then a year or so later when I got with my ex I fell pregnant again and miscarried at around 14 weeks, I was very malnourished at the time and my body couldn't support a baby.

It was upsetting at the time but a blessing in disguise. I was just homeless for 6 months and if those babies had of been born I would of been homeless with a 10 and an 11 year old - which would not have been good at all.


After my second miscarriage I decided that I wasn't having kids (strict contraception) until I had a mortgage, my license and a reliable car, a good job and weighed more than 50kgs.

Now I've decided that when I do want kids I'll adopt. No point bringing another child into the world when there are lots of kids that don't have a loving home. I can provide one so that's what I'll do.

Kittie im sorry you went through those rought times.... geez

 

[Kittiee Katt]

Sorry to hear about the miscarriages
My first was a miscarriage, just short of 12wks. More pain then I could have imagined feeling at that point in my life. I too was way under weight and think it was my body’s way of self preservation. It made me feel so guilty

Adoption is a great option! My sister adopted my nephew. He is a wonderful little boy they are still waiting on the list for another.

The physical pain was pretty bad, but it had nothing on the way it made my head feel both times, as a teenager it really messes with you.

That's awesome that your sister adopted your nephew. I hope they get a second one soon. The waiting list here is looong so I hope its not as bad over there.

4 my kids are adopted. all as infants. all have jobs and moved out cept one, she is autistic on the Asperger scale and will live with us for life.

That's what I want to do, adopt at infancy.
Seems like the way to go.

 

[MrsE88]

The physical pain was pretty bad, but it had nothing on the way it made my head feel both times, as a teenager it really messes with you.

That's awesome that your sister adopted your nephew. I hope they get a second one soon. The waiting list here is looong so I hope its not as bad over there.

I can’t imagine how hard that would be.
I was 20, so not a teen anymore but I was still living at home. So no where near ready for the responsibility of a child.

The wait is long here too. I think it’s been 4yrs or so this time around already. Sad thing is they aren’t even on the list for strictly an infant. Baby to 4yrs old I think. I had no idea adopting could be such a challenge. Even so it is so worth it

 

[CarpCharacin]

The risk with adopting, is that you could end up with a child with a very low IQ.

 

[Kittiee Katt]

Kittie im sorry you went through those rought times.... geez

Don't be sorry, its not your fault. Unless you're secretly Tony Abbot?

It all sucked at the time but its helped build me into who I am today, I'm stronger because of it.
Life has its ups and downs, and while my life has been mostly downs its definitely helped make me a better person.

I'm more empathic because of my struggles, more compassionate. I dunno. I'm kind of glad I've been through what I have, I'm so happy that I'm not one of those people who grow up having no idea what the world is truly like. I've seen some horrible things so I know how bad the world can be but also know there is a lot of good out there too as I've had kindness I didn't deserve shown to me by complete strangers.

I can’t imagine how hard that would be.
I was 20, so not a teen anymore but I was still living at home. So no where near ready for the responsibility of a child.

The wait is long here too. I think it’s been 4yrs or so this time around already. Sad thing is they aren’t even on the list for strictly an infant. Baby to 4yrs old I think. I had no idea adopting could be such a challenge. Even so it is so worth it

Yeah, the waiting list here is around 10 years for the same age group, it sucks but it is worth it, definitely.

 

[Kittiee Katt]

The risk with adopting, is that you could end up with a child with a very low IQ.

That shouldn't even be a worry. A child's academic performance has nothing to do with how much you should love and care about it.

A child is a child whether they're smart, dumb, blind, disabled or whatever. That sort of petty crap shouldn't even be considered when speaking of adoption.

Sorry carp, maybe one day you'll grow up and realize how silly that is.

 

[jaws7777]

Don't be sorry, its not your fault. Unless you're secretly Tony Abbot?

It all sucked at the time but its helped build me into who I am today, I'm stronger because of it.
Life has its ups and downs, and while my life has been mostly downs its definitely helped make me a better person.

I'm more empathic because of my struggles, more compassionate. I dunno. I'm kind of glad I've been through what I have, I'm so happy that I'm not one of those people who grow up having no idea what the world is truly like. I've seen some horrible things so I know how bad the world can be but also know there is a lot of good out there too as I've had kindness I didn't deserve shown to me by complete strangers.


Yeah, the waiting list here is around 10 years for the same age group, it sucks but it is worth it, definitely.

Thats really admirable, allot of people would use rough times as crutches or excuses in life. Your a tough cookie

I agree about how the crap makes us who we are.

 

[MrsE88]

Thats really admirable, allot of people would use rough times as crutches or excuses in life. Your a tough cookie

I agree about how the crap makes us who we are.

I agree^^