Official Off Topic Discussion Thread #1

[skjl47]

This is one thing I struggle to get my head round. Drinking heavily to forget certainly works for a few hours at least, but then when you wake up you've still got the original problem to cope with....and a banging head too!!

Hello; I agree. Saw that outcome as well. Problems still around when you sober up. I do not drink that way. Hardly drink at all. maybe a beer in the evening on hot day. But only one beer in one day.

 

[celebrist]

Hello; Had an unusual situation crop up recently. Some background. I married the first time in 1966 and was divorced the first time in 1979. An old and common story, the first wife found a new boyfriend. After a few weeks I adjusted and moved on to other girlfriends and eventually a second marriage which did not last long.
Fast forward to last summer. I answered the phone to hear the long divorced first ex-wife on the line. She had essentially outlived her second husband who recently passed away after a few decades. She wanted me to come up for a visit. Saying she was now alone. I declined to do so. At the time I could only think of the poor way things had ended so many decades ago. So, i never called back nor did I visit.

This past Wednesday i got another phone call from a person asking if I knew her. It was the woman who is executor of her estate. The first wife is dead. Thing is she killed herself a few weeks ago. Now it has crossed my mind the phone call and request for a visit last summer may have been a call for help. Nothing in the conversation at the time suggested a problem or perhaps I just failed to notice.

Not sure what to make of this. 1979 is 44 years ago. I moved on from that episode in my life long ago. We had no children together and had not seen each other for decades. I had figured that relationship done and dusted for a long time. I was largely beyond any ill feelings and mostly did not want to dredge up that whole episode again. Guess i am trying to figure out two things. One is did i miss a call for help? The other is even if i had thought of it as a call for help, I am not sure I would have wanted to be involved. That she took her own life is troubling and i did not wish her harm even back in the day. I just wanted away from a bad episode back then and had no desire to open up old wounds.

Wow, that's rough brother I typed several pat answers and cliches then deleted them because I don't know what to say

 

[skjl47]

Wow, that's rough brother I typed several pat answers and cliches then deleted them because I don't know what to say

Hello; Yeah, I understand. I do not think there are any pat answers. I get it is not the same as a couple who spent 56 years together and one died in old age. I get the suicide is a big part of the questions I have rolling around in my mind. Since the phone call last summer, I had thought about the request for a visit often and each time had come to the same decision. Not to go. I had put the situation around the divorce 44 years ago behind me because i had no choice but to move on. A thing is i realized some thoughts and feelings had merely been put on hold for those 44 years. Those were the main reasons I decided not to go for a visit. I could picture my asking unpleasant questions about the past which likely would not help either of us and would be a bad scene. Seemed the better choice at the time to just stay away.
I also get the business of being alone. I have been alone since 1990. Two failed marriages were enough. Guess I can deal with being alone better. She mentioned being alone and that all her family are gone. That was likely the clue i missed. Guess she had never been alone that way before. I will avoid taking any blame for the decision to kill herself. Perhaps i am guilty of something but not that.

 

[skjl47]

Hello; Yeah, I understand. I do not think there are any pat answers. I get it is not the same as a couple who spent 56 years together and one died in old age. I get the suicide is a big part of the questions I have rolling around in my mind. Since the phone call last summer, I had thought about the request for a visit often and each time had come to the same decision. Not to go. I had put the situation around the divorce 44 years ago behind me because i had no choice but to move on. A thing is i realized some thoughts and feelings had merely been put on hold for those 44 years. Those were the main reasons I decided not to go for a visit. I could picture my asking unpleasant questions about the past which likely would not help either of us and would be a bad scene. Seemed the better choice at the time to just stay away.
I also get the business of being alone. I have been alone since 1990. Two failed marriages were enough. Guess I can deal with being alone better. She mentioned being alone and that all her family are gone. That was likely the clue i missed. Guess she had never been alone that way before. I will avoid taking any blame for the decision to kill herself. Perhaps i am guilty of something but not that.

Hello; Time to move on to a different off topic discussion. Thanks for the responses.

 

[Hendre]

How are y'all doing? Uni is kicking butt so barely have time to stick my head in here. And when I do I have to clean out a Nigeria-based scammer (Anyone for a Nigerian prince?)

 

[Ulu]

I just hate recurring subscription payments.

 

[Ulu]

How are y'all doing? Uni is kicking butt so barely have time to stick my head in here. And when I do I have to clean out a Nigeria-based scammer (Anyone for a Nigerian prince?)

We haven’t been able to import them since 1865 when Lincoln became president.

Anyhow, we have plenty of homegrown scammers.

 

[Ulu]

I’m working on this old transaxle for a project I want to build.

Lots of pulling has been going on here. First I had to pull this brake drum.

Then I had to pull this hub.

And finally I had to actually pull the pulley.


So will I actually ever be able to build this thing, or something similar?

 

[esoxlucius]

I’m working on this old transaxle for a project I want to build.
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Lots of pulling has been going on here. First I had to pull this brake drum.
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Then I had to pull this hub.
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And finally I had to actually pull the pulley.
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So will I actually ever be able to build this thing, or something similar?

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I'd much prefer this chopper Ulu . And if you can supply the lady too, well that would be great!!

 

[Ulu]

Not in that line of business esox.