A. baenschi are not one of the harem apistos, but one of the pairing ones. Letting the male pick isn't a bad thing, but once he does I would remove the second female as she would most likely be killed by the pair.
it's up to you overall, it's your tank and only you know your own experience levels, but Dwarfs are not by any means and easy cichlid to keep, that's why the 3 I recommended are rather simple and somewhat hardy - Jewels being incredibly hardy. Good luck whatever you decide to go withFrank Castle while I always like those little rams. I really want to try an apistos tank. I've got a few months to aqua-scape and get the tank ready. I want to do more plants, as well as some leaf litter for more tannins. I think I've narrowed it down to A. Borelli or A. baenschi
As those both are the smaller of the apistos. Although I like the look of the A. baenschi more I need to do more research on them. I don't want to get into it half assed. They will be the only cichlids in the tank. And at that only a trio of hopefully 2 females and a male. (Although I may have to get more and sort them) we all know how that goes. PS. Good to see you posting around again!
See^ more research is needed! But to be honest the research is part of the fun for me. Learning about the individual needs of the fish, especially in something this small is very interesting to me. How do you like the A. baenschidarth pike
it's up to you overall, it's your tank and only you know your own experience levels, but Dwarfs are not by any means and easy cichlid to keep, that's why the 3 I recommended are rather simple and somewhat hardy - Jewels being incredibly hardy. Good luck whatever you decide to go with