Official Off Topic Discussion Thread #1

[skjl47]

Hopefully I'm not hijacking this thread, but I am coming here for some advice from you guys.
My personal friend of over 10 years Matt (we are very close to where we actually are close knit brothers) is going through a really tough situation right now. Last month, he caught his fiancee having a three some with 2 guys in his own bedroom on his bed. God, what a phone call at 11 PM that night was. He literally was so pissed and upset, I raced over there because I know his temper and if she did anything else to piss him off she would have been knocked out... he used to do karate. Before, I got there, I called the police to have her kicked out as we planned it on the phone. Typical, woman playing victim but next day he put a restraining order on her. She is now moved to another city probably living somewhere with one of those 2 guys she got caught giving head too... He decided he is not going to marry her and has kicked her out of his house, took her name off of his mortgage and got rid of her car. I can't say I don't blame him, I have done the same thing... once a girl cheats, she can never be trusted and I respect his decision very much.
Anyways, he was just starting to come back from feeling down...
Then on Saturday,
He took his basset hound named Cleo for a walk. Cleo is a hound so he sniffs a lot of stuff. Out of no worry, a pit bull came running towards Cleo and started attacking. The pittbull bit his back and ear. My friend pulled out his shot gun and shot the pit-bull four times killing him. The pit-bull would not let go until he was shot twice. He then charged at Matt and he fired 2 more shots. I know, that Matt is an animal lover, he loves his dog and his fish, and loves nature so I know this is eating him up.
The owners of the pit-bulls (most likely thugs) want to sue my friend for Quote on Quote '' KILLING'' their dog for no reason... Well, idiots, if you were so worried about your pittbull being killed, you would have been out there stopping him. My friend has to go through all this legal crap because people who can't handle animals get put in situations they don't belong. My friend was emotional this morning because he didn't want to kill the pitt, but I talked to him. I told him he was 100 percent in the right. There would have been NO better outcome. He would have most likely killed Cleo and then attacked you. You made the right decision and I told him I am supportive of his decision and will help if he does get sued and in any legal trouble because these ignorant punks couldn't handle their pitt and raised it to be mean.
I am worried about him because he suffers from depression and anxiety. He may not ever want to walk his dog again or go to Petco anymore in fear it will happen again. I could not get him to go to the store today, I was going to treat Cleo and him. I was gonna give Cleo a new toy and treat and I was going to take Matt out for lunch, but he would not get out of bed... He called me today saying he was hungry and didn't feel like cooking so I had him come over for dinner. He just doesn't seem the same to me. I can see the stress in him. I don't think he will legally get in trouble, I think it's more of guilt than anything.
I told him tomorrow me and you are going out and doing something tomorrow you need to get out and clear your mind. I plan on taking him bowling, out to dinner, and maybe the bar if he can drink on his medications, I can but I am only allowed 3 or 4 drinks at most, but I never go past that point.
He doesn't trust any women anymore and I understand that, so most likely will go to the sports bar with all the guys watching football or something.
What do you guys think about this?
I am a people person and I can tell that he is stressed. He keeps telling me he is fine, but I can see something is bugging him.

First, I am Alex Cardinale, aka Yanker aka Cichla Dude or whatever hell usernames I had.

I lied very often got caught and tried so hard to defend myself, made a fool out of myself

I was a pathological liar

Hello; If this story is legit, then I hope your friend comes out OK.

 

[krichardson]

Guy was walking his Bassett hound with a shot gun, tough part of town for sure

LOL!.....definitely more details are needed.

 

[AquaAlex1993]

Lol, Alex, this is the off topic thread. It canNOT be hijacked, derailed, or off topic, so don't worry about that. Anything goes, ....within TOS, that is, so be careful.
Wow, sorry to hear about your friend. He obviously is going through a really hard time. I can understand being "fine." It's so early, he may just want a little time to sort out some thoughts. Sometimes you don't immediately think talking about it helps, but it usually does. Keep being there for him. Killing the pitt was a horrible situation, but you're right. It was either Cleo or the pitt. Your friend cares about his dog. Caring means, you'd put yourself in a less than ideal situation, to insure the care and safety of something.
As far as his woman problem, it's going to hurt, but really, he's lucky he found this out before he married her. It would have been several times harder to deal with, and several times more expensive if they were married. He may not care about that now, bc it's all about pain and betrayal first. Just keep being there for him is my suggestion, but be patient. I know I'd be pretty quiet at first. Thumbs up for being such a great friend, you'd be surprised how few and far between they are.

Thank you.
He called me this morning and said he looks forward to get out of the house today, so that is good.

Guy was walking his Bassett hound with a shot gun, tough part of town for sure

The arena he lives isn't really bad, but there are some bad people there. Three streets down from his there is always fights going on. But if you keep to yourself, you are generally fine. People have dogs there and most of them are well behaved.

Hello; If this story is legit, then I hope your friend comes out OK.

Hello, hope you are doing good.
Yes, this story is legit. I wouldn't make this up, only reason I brought it here is because I was looking for some other advice/opinions.
I understand the skepticism because of my past, but know that I don't lie anymore.

 

[krichardson]

So how did the shotgun come into play,was he actually carrying it while walking the dog?

 

[AquaAlex1993]

LOL!.....definitely more details are needed.

He lives in a ok area, not the best. 3 streets down there are always fights mostly gang and thug related.
On his street, it's mostly family with kids, but there is one house that has a 30 year old man and teenagers (most likely gangsters up to no good people) at the end of the street. That is where Cleo was attacked.. the pittbull was loose and someone had the fence open, so I'm thinking maybe it was done on purpose.

 

[AquaAlex1993]

So how did the shotgun come into play,was he actually carrying it while walking the dog?

Yes, he always carries when walking in his neighborhood.
I know he can defend himself pretty well, but I guess he feels he needs a gun.
But thank god he had it on him that day.

 

[kewpiefishypewpie]

Your friend has been through an awful lot, you said he's on medication- is this because of the couple of incidents? If so, is he receiving therapy with it?

 

[AquaAlex1993]

Your friend has been through an awful lot, you said he's on medication- is this because of the couple of incidents? If so, is he receiving therapy with it?

Good question. He has been taking medication before the events because he has mild bi-polar. He does have therapy. I used to have one too.

 

[krichardson]

But thank god he had it on him that day.

Agreed.

 

[kewpiefishypewpie]

Good question. He has been taking medication before the events because he has mild bi-polar. He does have therapy. I used to have one too.

Hopefully the therapy and his family and friends help him through this tough time, I hope it works out for him.